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Embrace your weird side

embrace-your-weird-sideIt has been a couple years since I have gone to a Vinyasa yoga class. Yesterday I took the plunge and went to a studio nearby (East Wind Yoga) to get some time to myself. Pretty sure Vinyasa is as close to Heaven as I can get. I could feel my heart filling with the love and joy that this practice brought me years ago. My favorite part about Vinyasa is the little bits of wisdom that the instructors tend to share at the beginning and end of class. They tie moves to it and the whole class is like a dance for your soul. Ok getting “woohooy” over here. The instructor (Natasha Bailey) said something that hasn’t left my mind so I figure I should write about it!

The thought: Embrace your weird side.

When we are kids we are taught to do things this way and that way so that we are seen as “good” and not “bad”.We are taught to fit in and follow the rules. This follows us through high school and college and transcends into the workplace.

We all become these stereotypes and think that this is the way life should be lived. Maybe we show our true colors to our spouse? best friend? family? These characteristics are what have cultivated deeper connections and deeper relationship with others but it takes months sometimes years before we show them.

Being different has such a negative connotation tied to it but what isn’t realized is those that show their “weirdness” are extremely successful. When I say successful I mean in life, in love, and maybe even financially. It is like letting your uniqueness come out opens space up in your mind for creativity and success.

Part of my job is studying people, studying the top earners in my company and what they do…what have I found? THEY ARE ALL WEIRDOS!!!! They are all silly and funny and don’t care who knows it! They share love and sadness and they are REAL.

So I guess my point to this is to take pride in your weirdness. Life is to short to hide in a stereotype, be weird, embrace it and encourage others to do the same.

Coach Thoughts

Thoughts on Emotional Eating

I was talking with one of my favorite clients and she was telling me about the actions she is taking in her life to better herself (LOVE IT). We were talking about how she wants to take control of her emotional eating. She did something that blew me away!

She found the CAUSE of the emotions and cut that person, place or job out of her life.

Think about it, instead of trying to take control of your emotions, take control of the situation that is causing these emotions. BAM! EMOTIONAL EATING GONE!

I call it life cleansing. Find what is causing you anger, hurt, frustration and fix it.

Have a friend that always brings you down? Either confront him/her on the negativity and try and help or distance yourself. I know many people would find this selfish but you need to CARE FOR YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CAN CARE FOR OTHERS. You will become a better friend, wife, and mom if you focus in on you and what makes you happy.

It takes time to retrain your brain to not run to food every time you feel sad, hurt or angry. If you can prevent those emotions as much as possible then you are limiting the amount of times you have the opportunity to turn to food for comfort.

Now I understand that we can’t all just go out and quit our jobs (what I find to be the top cause of emotional eating) however we can shift our thinking a bit. Break down your job and find the things you DO enjoy, maybe it’s coffee breaks with a coworker or talking on the phone with a certain client. FIND POSITIVITY IN THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE.

I remember when I would be driving home from my job as a daycare worker I would think about how exhausted I was and how frustrating X,Y, and Z was today, how behind I am on X, Y and Z. Blah Blah Blah. So by the time I got home I wanted to sit on the couch and be a stressed out mess while I watched TV and ate pasta.

Now if I would have known about the power of positive thinking and how the state of our mind drives our day to day life I could have saved about 15lbs of extra weight I gained doing this.

What could I have done instead?

I loved my job, I truly did, I loved every single one of the two-year-olds in my class. I loved prepping for activities I wanted to do with them, I loved talking to them and teaching their little minds about life. The problem is I never reminded myself of this, I focused on the daily frustrations instead of the whole picture.

I practice this on a daily basis and rarely find myself turning to food for comfort. I use my mind and thoughts to comfort me.

Bottom line…If you can’t cut it out then change the way you feel about it.